Thoughts on Friendship…

A friend who cannot accept that you have differences is not your friend.  A friend will not turn their back on you or betray your trust. They will accept that although you won’t agree on everything, they will defend you regardless because it is your RIGHT to be who you are. Those who cannot accept you as you are have the issues. Not you.  If they turn their backs on you and treat you badly, that is their loss and not yours.  YOU don’t need people to validate who you are, that comes with your own inner voice.  You must follow your convictions, not theirs.

If one is willing to let differences of opinions, color of skin, political affiliations, sexual orientations and such affect him/her in such a way that they do not even want to hear you out or try to find out why you feel the way you do, THEY have the problem. Not you. That being said I have always found it best to detach from many and not let people get close to me. I really don’t require human contact and do not need anyone to “validate” who I am.  I do not look for any person to come riding in on a white horse to save me. I had to take care of some things myself–and let God do his job…And he’s got a lot of work ahead of him…Trust me.

I Should Title this “How to Look STUPID on Facebook”…

This is merely a FYI post, but it needs to be put out there.  HOW many of you get unfriended when somebody’s post shows up on YOUR wall and the original poster gets PO’d that you respond?  Well here is why that happens.  The original poster, the OP-as I will  label him/her doesn’t even realize how to use Facebook properly.  He/she will post something not realizing that it goes to all of their friends walls 9 times out of 10 and then get angry over differences of opinion. Many of them make themselves look totally stupid when they attack others who respond too.

When posting there is a little drop-down arrow next to the blue “post” button.  It says “public”, “friends”, “friends except acquaintances, etc…That is how one makes sure the post reaches the intended recipients–otherwise it goes public and people assume the topic is up for debate.  Once in a while when one responds, one might  get responses like: “Don’t come to my wall telling me how to…” blah blah blah…You get it.  If you know someone who is doing this, please share this blog entry. It might keep that person from looking like a total moron.  If a post from someone else shows up on YOUR wall, then it IS public and up for discussion.  If they didn’t want it that way, they should have paid attention to that feature.

Another good idea is putting friends in certain categories such as “co-workers”, family, acquaintances, etc…when adding them. That way one can target only to those people they want to share thoughts with.

Many times these posts tend to be political as well.  I’ve had to tell people to knock off their attacks at each other on my wall more than once and then I shared this info.  I see a lot less BS on my wall now as a result, so if you’re having to endure this crap, feel free to share the link to this blog entry.

Above all, don’t fret if you get unfriended over such bull. People like that aren’t true friends anyway! Have  a great weekend~!

And don’t fret if you get unfriended on Facebook over a difference of opinion. If people only want people on their friends list who think like they do, before long they’ll be talking to themselves in the mirror.  They don’t tend to keep friends very long either because they are more interested in controlling others and hearing themselves talk than they are in open discourse.



A Big Day in the Nanahood!


Meet my grandson, Kevin D. Thomas! He finally decided to make his début onto the world stage at 1:20 p.m. on 7/18/2012! He weighed 7 lb. 14 oz and is 20″ long. Believe me when I say this kid has a set of lungs on him too!

Well everyone, without further adieu,  Nana is getting some sleep! I had a big day and came home to a ton of laundry to do! LOL!  I got it finished-finally!  I got called at 1:20 yesterday morning and 12 hours later, the little guy arrived!


If I Had Written THIS as a Teen, I’d STILL have ended up in the counselor’s office…Guess why

Another corpse choking

on a Kaiser roll

while a solitary bookkeeper

keeps track of a soul.

When the ink bottle spills

over a yellowed page

some demon in a hallway

hunts me down in a rage.



It is only Mephistopheles

who is keeping the scores

while his old pal Leviathan

vents some anger in the moors

Then children born of ignorance

escape their gilded cage–

but not before the fool seeks

some wisdom from the sage.


Don’t ask me where this came from.  Some times ink escapes my pen just as in the fashion words escape my mouth when I really get on a roll…If done verbally, it’s almost comparable to “verbal vomit” because I’m usually purging a few old ghosts…I write monologues once in a  while too, but as a teen, I never let anyone see all of it…If they had, they would have thought I went mad…Maybe I was in a sense. I definitely trusted nobody and I certainly was a hermit…

I find it odd that people think that solitude is such a bad thing when it really isn’t.  It depends on what one does with that solitude.  I used it to create my own worlds, characters and such–much in the way women writers did in the days of old.